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I have been thinking about snowflakes and how each individual snowflake has its own unique design. When I see enlarged photos of snowflakes, I marvel at their beauty and intricate form.

That reminds me of how we humans are like snowflakes, for we are each created to be exquisitely unique. No one person is like another, and yet we are culturally conditioned to compare ourselves to others.

When we are growing up, we compare ourselves to our friends and classmates. There is a sense of competitiveness that is instilled in us right from a very young age. Our parents (mostly unconsciously) want us to be like (insert name), and when we're not, they and we are disappointed. We feel like a failure.

This mental construct of comparison continues on into adulthood and is the cause of a great deal of frustration and dissatisfaction. We often get into the mindset of 'Keeping up with the Jones', comparing ourselves to our family members, neighbors, and work colleagues. This kind of thinking can be destructive to our self-love.

When we realize that we are unique individuals, each blessed with amazing qualities that are just waiting to be discovered, we can find gratitude for what and who we are. We can understand that, just like the snowflake, we are perfect just the way we are.

© Erika Marie Rose and Good Vibes, 2020

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