In my meditation, I saw a field of flowers that all looked like red hearts growing on green stems, and I heard the word, 'Love'. I understand this message to mean I need to deepen my own self-love.

The word, 'self-love' has become so cliché that I often search for another term to express this way of supporting myself. How about self-care? For me, self-care means not putting myself last after friends, family, strangers, and basically anybody BUT myself. Through cultural conditioning, we are taught to be selfless and serve others, but that doesn't mean ignoring our own needs.

Some people confuse self-care with selfishness, which are two very different things. Self-care is about nurturing ourselves so that we can be a light to others. After all, we can't pour from an empty cup. An example of self-care is carving time out of our morning to do yoga and meditation because it makes us feel good, and having a higher vibration is a great way to start the day. Self-care not only has a positive effect on us, but we share it with everyone we encounter when we feel good about ourselves.

Selfishness, on the other hand, is caring only about satisfying our interests, benefits, and ego, without regard as to the far-reaching effects it has on our environment. An example of selfishness is having more than enough food and not sharing it with anyone, especially on a holiday. Selfish people are concerned only with the advantages or disadvantages they will get out of a situation. They don't want to give away anything that might diminish what they have without getting anything in return.

Self-love = self-care. How can we support and replenish ourselves so that we can share our light with others?

© Erika Marie Rose and Good Vibes, 2019