She had not known the weight until she felt the freedom. --Nathaniel Hawthorne
Recently, I have been addressing the topic of the burdens that we carry around with us in our heart. I have a new daily blog, in which I elaborate on messages that I receive during my meditations, and one of the messages was the following: "This morning, I was shown a picture of a weight, the old-fashioned metal kind that you put on a scale. When I questioned the significance of this image, it was clear that the meaning was about the burdens that we carry around with us. They are like a heavy weight on our shoulders that we often don't realize we are holding onto."
When our heart chakra is out of balance, we tend to look outside ourselves to find for the causes. Our heart may be buried under layers of resentment, unforgiveness, and holding grudges. But, we need to look even deeper, past the negative feelings we hold toward others.
In truth, we need to start with ourselves if we want to bring harmony to our heart. Examining the root of the imbalance at a more profound level will reveal that our personal feelings of guilt, shame, unforgiveness, and lack of self-love are the reasons our heart chakra feels out of center. When we are in judgement of ourselves, we project that energy outwards and start judging others, clouding our sense of compassion. Our hearts become heavy with the weight of negative energy.
Why is it often easier to forgive others than it is to forgive ourselves? We tend to hold onto a lot of self-judgement, expecting to be perfect, and when we don't reach that mark, we chide ourselves for failing. If I feel guilty or shameful about something I have done in the past, I am judging myself. That's when the negative self-talk comes in. Often, we've held onto these emotions for so long, that we've gotten used to the burden, forgetting what it was like to feel balanced and free.
When we become aware that we need to heal the lack of love for ourselves first, we can start the process of self-forgiveness. When we experience self-love and self-compassion, we are in place of self-forgiveness. We can let go of what has been dragging us down, sometimes for years. And when we can open our hearts and forgive ourselves, we make it possible to forgive others, thus letting go of the heavy burdens we've been carrying with us. © Erika Marie Rose and Good Vibes, 2019