Compassionate Listening



In our recent sound healing, New Moon in Gemini, the focus was on re-evaluating our communication skills. In examining how we communicate with others, it is helpful to do a check-in with the throat chakra. This energy center governs communication, self-expression, and our inner truth. When we focus on the throat chakra, we are concerned with the quality and intensity of our communication or our lack of it. This includes creative expression, speaking, and listening.


When the throat chakra is balanced, in our conversations with others, we are able to listen compassionately to what another person is saying. When the energy in this chakra is in harmony, we can also hear our inner voice, which helps us to understand our own true essence.


So, what is the listening aspect of a healthy throat chakra? Let's take a moment and think back to the last few times we've had a conversation with someone. When the other person was talking, did we truly listen to them? Or were we just waiting to have our turn to speak, trying not to forget what we wanted to say? Or did we let our thoughts drift off, even while maintaining eye contact? Did we pretend to have listened to what the other said?


Actually, a truly good listener is a compassionate listener, which requires that we focus our entire attention on the person we're having a conversation with. Nowadays, we tend to let ourselves get so easily distracted that we might find it difficult to actually hear someone out. While the conversation partner is talking, it's tempting to go and do something else or let our thoughts wander -- What are we having for dinner tonight? I still have to do some shopping. What did Bob mean by that comment? ... and so on. Our ego tends to jump in, allowing our thoughts to revolve around I, me, mine, and we might start judging the other person from the point of our ego. What this says to the person speaking is that we don't value them enough to stop what we're doing and thinking and really listen to what they are saying.


One of the kindest and most loving things we can do for anyone is to genuinely listen to them. When a person feels heard, they begin to heal. Compassionate listening is something we can practice. The next time someone has a conversation with you, take time to be present for that person. Check in with yourself and see if you are truly listening.


Namaste