In my meditation this morning, I saw the image of a broken heart and heard the word, 'grief'. As I meditated on the topic of grief, my spirit guide reminded me that grief has no time limit.
When we lose a loved one, whether through death or the ending of a relationship, we naturally go into a state of grieving. It's a normal and healthy part of the loss that we need to go through in order to process our emotions.
After the initial shock of being separated from a loved one, we tend to feel spaced out in the first weeks of grieving. I remember feeling like I was watching myself in a movie. I was so out of it that I had to force myself to put one foot in front of the other in order to move. I felt like it was a huge task just to do my normal daily activities.
Grief shows up at unexpected times, like right in the middle of talking to someone. Just one mention of the loved one's name, and the tears come hard and fast. There's no way of stopping it...which we shouldn't anyway. We really need to let it out. No stiff upper lip here, no carrying on stoically in the face of pain.
Our society has us conditioned to walk around with a happy face even when we are in deep pain inside. People feel awkward and may avoid talking to the grieving person because they don't know what to say.
When months have gone by, and we are still in a state of grief, our friends may become impatient and tell us to get over it, to get on with our life because this would make them feel more comfortable.
But, everyone grieves differently and at their own pace. No one should tell another person when they need to stop grieving. We need to be able to process these deep emotions in our own time, without feeling rushed and pressured to put on a happy face for the sake of everyone else. © Erika Marie Rose and Good Vibes, 2019