Article: How Big Is Your Frying Pan? Becoming Aware of Self-Imposed Limitations...

In a recent sound healing, we focused on letting go of old stuck energy related to self-imposed limitations, which can inhibit us from living in alignment with our true nature. We tend to carry these mental constructs around with us subconsciously, telling ourselves that we don't have what it takes to go after the life we want.  This reminded me of a story I once heard from a yogi. A man was at a lake watching a fisher catching fish. He noticed that whenever the fisher caught a big fish, he would put it back in the water. The fisher was only collecting small fish in his bucket. After observing this for a while, the man went over to the fisher and asked him why he always threw the big fish back into the lake and kept only the small ones. The fisher replied, "That's because I only have a small frying pan at home."  And so it is with our self-imposed limitations.  Limitations are hard enough to surpass without them being self-imposed. Isn't it enough that through our environment we feel limited in our abilities to create the life we want? During our time of socialization, when we are growing up, we often hear our family, friends, community, and education system telling us what we can and cannot do. Our environment tells us that we cannot do something unless we behave the way our parents want, get good grades, do exactly what figures of authority are doing, or _____ (fill in the blank). As a result, we eventually take on that way of thinking and do not question it. We end up believing that everyone else seems to know best what's right for us, thus giving away our responsibility for living the life we want to others. But, what about when we begin to realize that we are the ones we need to listen to if we want to live a fulfilled life? As Buddha said, "No one saves us but ourselves. No one can, and no one may. We, ourselves, must walk the path." When our inner voice urges us for the 50th time to follow our passion, why do we ignore it? Is it because we see ourselves as being limited? Does it come from social conditioning -- a fear that we are not _____ (good, deserving, educated, experienced, or financially secure) enough? 

As we reconnect with our divine feminine aspect -- the energy of just being, receiving, inspiration, perseverance, and trust -- we can open ourselves to tuning in to our inner voice and listening to our heart, our true essence. Our self-imposed limitations keep us in a state of inertia, unable to move forward to realize our dreams. As a matter of fact, we never feel like we are quite ready enough to align with a way of life that supports us because change can appear so daunting. As Doris Lessing said, "Whatever you're meant to do, do it now. The conditions are always impossible." What if, today, we took just one step towards our inner calling? It could be as simple as talking to someone about it or researching the topic. And what if we took another step tomorrow, and the next day? If we break it into little steps, day by day, it doesn't seem so daunting. In the words of Lao Tzu, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

Let's be open to it being way better than we can imagine. Let's not limit ourselves to what we know and can envision. The universe has ways of manifesting things in our life that we would never, ever have dreamed of. © Erika Marie Rose and Good Vibes, 2019