In my meditation this morning, I asked for a message, saying 'What do I need to know to support my highest good." Now, I am sure that the universe has a sense of humor because the message I received was the Batman beam in the sky that was always used to call Batman when someone in Gotham City needed help. Upon deeper inquiry, I understood that the message was about me asking for help when I need it.
Although I've been getting pretty good at asking for help, sometimes I still fall back into the mindset that I have been culturally conditioned to believe in. Here in the US, people are raised on being self-sufficient and independent. We have a very individualistic culture, and our society celebrates people who have 'pulled themselves up by their own bootstraps', without any help. This is considered a desirable trait and makes us reluctant to reach out to others for assistance in difficult times. We think we have to struggle on our own and that it's a sign of weakness to ask for help.
As an ESL teacher, I come into contact with international students, who come from countries unlike the United States. Most of my students come from collectivist cultures, in which the smallest unit is the family, not the individual like in the US. People in collectivist cultures expect to help others and receive help in return, whether it's from the family, friends, or colleagues. They don't consider it a sign of weakness to need help.
If we take off our cultural conditioning glasses, we'll see that it's okay to admit that we are tired and need some support. We'll understand that we can share our burden with others and that we don't have to go it alone. © Erika Marie Rose and Good Vibes, 2019